My Son-In-Law Has Secret Facebook Account With Porn Friends, Should I Tell Daughter?

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My Son-In-Law Has Secret Facebook Account With Porn Friends, Should I Tell Daughter?

I have recently discovered that my son-in-law has a secret Facebook account. He has 61 friends on this account, all of whom are adult female porn characters. I am sure my daughter does not know and I have not told my husband.

I use Facebook infrequently, mainly to look at photos of my grandchildren posted by my daughter and son-in-law. I recently put in the wrong initial and their family name and discovered that my son-in-law has another Facebook account with porn stars in a friend list.

We have given him and our daughter considerable financial support and have been very involved with their children. My son-in-law has twice been made redundant in recent years. We have bailed him out of debt. My daughter is an only child and quite naive. She keeps a handle on the money now.

He is very immature in some respects. He rarely says thank you for anything we have done or returns an act of kindness. He is a doting father and I feel he needs my daughter to maintain his ego. I am so upset to find this Facebook account. I feel this is all so dishonest and it worries me greatly.

I feel my daughter is being deceived, although she has known him nearly 10 years. It would be so demeaning if she finds out. We feel he has never been open and honest with us and that it has been difficult for him to accept our help over the years, especially as his family are not able to contribute.

Finding this on Facebook seems like a kick in the teeth after we have given him so much support and welcomed him into our home. Should I tell my daughter about it? Or maybe I need to talk to him first? What am I to do?

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